Marriage: Great Sex and a Biblical Relationship

The Bible: Sex in Marriage

God made men and women sexual beings. He made our nervous systems capable of receiving pleasure from the sex act. Sex in marriage is good and holy and ordained of God.

The Bible says that marriage partners should offer their bodies to each other in marriage and should not deny each other except for a short season for fasting (see I Corinthians 7:3-5). 

The Bible: Sex for Pleasure in Marriage

There are some religious people who feel that the only reason for sex is reproduction. 

Others believe that there are higher reasons for sex - namely, the ultimate joining together of a married man and woman – joining their two spirits, joining their two minds, and joining their two bodies.

In the Old Testament the term for sexual intercourse was "to know" (a husband or wife). The most intimate knowledge of marriage partners comes about through these three joinings in a Christian marriage. This is why Christians can have a much more stimulating sex life than non-Christians. Non-Christians cannot join together in the spirit. They lack that extra dimension.

What about Oral Sex?

The Bible is not explicit on sex practices between married people.  Although it says that the marriage bed is to be undefiled, it does not say what it means by this (see Hebrews 13:4). There are a number of practices of love and sexuality in marriages in which the Bible is silent. Therefore, it is difficult to pontificate and say, “Well, this is right and this is wrong.”

In undefined matters such as this, there is a biblical rule: “Whatever is not from faith is sin." If one feels that oral sex is not from faith, then he should not do it. God has called us to holiness, not to sensuality. But the expression of physical and sexual love in marriage is good, holy, and God-given. Therefore, do not be afraid to ask God to direct you to those expressions of sexuality that are acceptable in His sight.

Adapted from Answers to 200 of Life’s Most Probing Questions by Pat Robertson.